TTR: The Drama Triangle
The Drama Triangle vs The Empowerment Dynamic: The Drama Triangle, by Steve Karpman, forms the mindset of those who unwittingly play relationship mind games. David Emerald's Empowerment Dynamic is the positive opposite of the model. These patterns are neither true nor false, they are each a MINDSET that gives us a way to see ourselves, others, and the world in general. When we adopt one of these mindsets we act out the roles. The Drama Triangle is the language of reactivity and victimhood. The Empowerment Dynamic is the Mindset of a Creator.The question we need to ask ourselves is: "Which of these two mindsets is productive and which is destructive? Which mindset helps and which one hurts?" In recovery from addiction, codependency, and Adult-Child Syndrome we cannot afford to be a victim - we MUST take the responsibility to be a Creator of our lives. That means we are accountable for the good, bad, and ugly that comes from our own decisions. This is why we need a group, Higher Power, and a sponsor (coach).Another consideration is that when we get triggered into survival mode the victim mentality comes with that. When we are in growth mode, it is easier and more natural to adopt the roles in the Empowerment Dynamic. The challenge is to develop the ability to move into the empowerment dynamic EVEN as we are being triggered into a life script, aka survival mode.Everything in this course boils down to this one thing: Accept our role and responsibilities as the Co-Creator's of our relationship can be the only mindset for healing said relationship. Victim Mentality is a surefire way to destroy our relationship. While we can only expect "progress, not perfection", we can work to recognize when we are being reactive and learn to STOP RIGHT THEN, go to neutral location to get back into growth-mode and try again using fair-fighting rules and avoiding stepping on Protector Landmines. (More on that later).